Why A Man Leaves A Relationship Without Explanation - Psychologists Explained

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Leave in English: why a man suddenly disappears without explanation

Men often leave a woman without any explanation. This happens after the first date and after years of marriage. Naturally, she gets confused, trying to figure out the motives for such behavior and often starting to blame herself for everything.

Content

• 1 Why does a man suddenly disappear and how to behave a woman

  • 1.1 After one or more dates
  • 1.2 In the process of developing relationships
  • 1.3 Leaves the family
  • 1.4 Video: why a man disappears without explanation

• 2 What caused this behavior of a man

  2.1 Video: what to do if a man leaves and returns

• 3 What a woman should do in such a situation and how to behave is not worth it

  3.1 Video: how to understand the motives of a man who left without explanation and what a woman should do

• 4 Views of men and women about the situation

Why does a man suddenly disappear and how to behave a woman

The disappearance of a man without any explanation makes a woman wonder. This behavior can be due to a variety of reasons.

After one or more dates

The man himself insisted on meeting, and, from your point of view, the date seemed to go well. But after him he disappears somewhere. The situation is very common. Of course, this is offensive, but you don't always have to take what happened at your own expense.

What can cause this behavior:

• Conjuncture. Your boyfriend has trite incorrectly recorded or did not save his phone, his mobile was stolen, he lost it.

• A certain force majeure for the man himself, his close relatives, acquaintances. There are many situations in life when even a coveted acquaintance with a girl fades into the background. Or the person just has a blockage at work, and you are not yet close enough to give you priority over a career.

  

  The fact that a man suddenly disappeared from your life may be due to objective reasons, in addition to your acquaintance, he has other priorities in life

• The man wanted to raise self-esteem in his own eyes or in the eyes of his friends, or to "replenish the collection" with another issue and simply did not plan anything other than a one-time meeting. It is typical for a "hunter" to lose interest after gaining sympathy from a girl.

  

  A man-"hunter" simply collects his "trophies", seeking the girl's sympathy for him is a kind of sport

• He has several options, from which he chooses the most suitable for himself. Either your meetings happened at the time of his quarrel with his girlfriend or wife, followed by reconciliation, and he was just looking for a "alternate airfield". This behavior is at least dishonest, so you can even be glad for yourself.

• There just wasn't a spark between you on a date. Neither you nor the man can influence this, and the reasons can be absolutely any - from the timbre of the voice, the manner of communication to the absence of common interests and hobbies, diametrically opposed views on life, dissimilarity of characters.

  

  It so happens that you just do not fit each other, and nothing can be done about it

• A man in general (or so far) does not strive for obligations. He seems to be sympathetic to you, but he does not want something more serious. Therefore, he prefers to disappear before things go too far.

• He considered you (sometimes not unreasonably, if after the first date it came to intimacy) an easily accessible girl. The negative impression is enhanced by too bright makeup, causing clothing, appropriate demeanor. Such girls just scare men away.

  

  When dressing for a date something like this, be prepared that a man will simply be afraid to start a relationship with you, not without reason, mistaking for a girl "facilitated behavior and increased availability"

• Excessive assertiveness frightens off no less. If already on the first date you start choosing a suitable date for the wedding, the names of your children and grandchildren, you can say with almost complete certainty that you will not see this man again.

When a man leaves you after a short acquaintance, it is usually not so difficult to get over it, because deep feelings have not yet arisen. When everything happened for reasons beyond his control, he will certainly find a way to make himself known later and explain his behavior. Give him a couple of weeks: if nothing happened, consider yourself completely free and boldly move on. Most likely, in a few months you will not remember this annoying episode.

In the process of developing relationships

It would seem that your relationship is developing logically: living together, meeting your parents and friends, plans for the future … And then everything suddenly ends. Why this can happen:

• The man realizes that the result of your relationship, if everything continues, is obvious - marriage, family, children. And he is simply not ready for such responsibility or doubts that he is ready.

  

  Marriage is a big responsibility, many men are simply not ready to take on such obligations.

• The rainbow period of falling in love is over, the relationship has become a routine. Everything became predictable and boring. In his imagination, the man drew himself a completely different scenario of your life together, and now he is completely disappointed.
• When living together, character traits become noticeable, which did not bother at all before. Perhaps you, as completely different people, are simply not able to "get used to" each other, and this overpowers feelings.
• Attempts to manipulate. Sudden departure is a "punishment" for a woman for her actual or perceived offense. By leaving without explanation, the man seems to leave the opportunity for himself to return. Often this generally becomes the norm, a means of pressure on the psyche of a woman.

• He sincerely considers such behavior a sign of masculinity, he is convinced that words are superfluous for a "real man", he should not explain anything. Perhaps it was common in his family, and he simply adopted this role model.

  

  The man may have borrowed the model of behavior "care in English" from his father

To avoid unnecessary worries and calm your conscience, try to contact a man through instant messengers, social networks, write him a message, contact his relatives and mutual friends. Just ask if he's okay. If an affirmative answer follows without any explanation, start living your life - from obsessive self-examination and inevitably subjective attempts to analyze your behavior will only get worse.

Leaves the family

A spouse leaving the family "in English", fortunately, is a rather rare occurrence. But if this did happen, there were clearly reasons for that:

• He's in big trouble personally. The husband acts with the best of intentions to protect the family.

• A happy rival who managed to take him away from his wife. The man did not want to personally inform his spouse about this due to the peculiarities of upbringing, character or banal cowardice.

  

  In a love triangle, it is often the wife who does not even consider it necessary to inform her of the reasons for leaving.

• "Crisis" in family relationships, causing an irresistible desire to break out of the familiar environment, no matter where. Most often, a few days are enough for a husband to "rest" and reassess his values.
• Serious conflict or family problems. Infantile men prefer to simply disappear, hoping that by their return everything will be resolved by itself.

• Character traits. Any introvert needs privacy from time to time.

  

  From time to time it is vital for any introvert to be alone, the spouse just needs to accept it - she is not at all to blame here

• Constant quarrels, scandals, nagging, reproaches from the wife. The man leaves in silence, because he does not want to run into another showdown, accompanied by insults, and sometimes even assault.

A husband rarely leaves a really happy family forever without explaining anything to his wife. Therefore, it is worthwhile to objectively assess your behavior in order to understand whether everything was really good. And based on this, make a decision - are you ready to seriously discuss the current situation with your husband, if he does it, listen to his point of view and look for a solution together.

Video: why a man disappears without explanation

What is the reason for this behavior of a man

Leaving the woman to guess everything herself is a variant of behavior that requires a minimum investment of time and effort. But men choose him for other reasons:

• uncertainty that he will be able to find the right words to explain his decision, and in the presence of a serious relationship - to pronounce them, looking into the eyes of a loved one and bringing to tears;

  

  Many men absolutely cannot stand female tears, in order to avoid this spectacle, they are ready to go to almost anything

• fear of screams, tantrums, scandals, accusations;

  

  By leaving without explanation, a man hopes to maintain his mental (and sometimes physical) health.

• unwillingness to start the discussion in an empty, as it seems to them, place;
• inability to take responsibility for their own actions and take responsibility;
• sincere conviction that a woman will understand everything herself, for them this is extremely clear.

Video: what to do if a man leaves and returns

What a woman should do in such a situation and how to behave

What exactly cannot be done when the man left without explanation:

• cut off the phone, flood it with messages on social networks;

  

  You can call or write to the man who left you once, just to make sure that he is alive and well, but constantly cut off his phone and try to contact him in other ways - in no case

• try to meet without fail, "catch" him at home, place of work;

  

  “Accidental” meetings and attempts to watch for a man, his relatives and friends are bad tactics; this will only force him to assert himself in the decision

• persistently persecute his family and friends;
• resort to threats and blackmail;
• change in order to please his requirements, if this is clearly not to your liking;

• intrusive to offer friendships or meetings without obligation.

  

  You should not try to return and / or keep a man at any cost; remember you have pride too

It makes sense to do something only if you have a more or less serious relationship. Try to figure out the reason for leaving, to understand if you are to blame. If your attempts to get in touch with a man were successful and he agreed to meet and discuss the situation:

• behave with restraint - do not rush to the man's neck, do not immediately make a scandal;
• do not arrange interrogation with preference, wanting to find out the reasons for his behavior;
• calmly explain that this act offended you, and you are now at a loss to say whether you need this relationship at all;
• do not press on the feeling of guilt - no need to paint in paints how scared, lonely, sad you were;
• do not behave arrogantly and condescendingly, but also do not be humiliated;
• If the departure is due to your behavior, apologize correctly and sincerely.

Video: how to understand the motives of a man who left without explanation and what a woman should do

Views of men and women about the situation

It is unfortunately impossible to get into someone else's head and read thoughts in order to understand why a man suddenly left without any explanation. Most often this happens due to a reluctance to sort things out in a raised voice, to take responsibility or a lack of tact, lack of upbringing. A woman in such a situation should not cheat, blame herself for everything and try to explain herself to a man at any cost.