Sleeping Positions For Two - What They Tell You About Your Relationship

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Sleeping positions for two: what they tell you about your relationship

Psychologists are sure that body language can say even more than the patient himself, because it is associated with the subconscious. In matters of relationships, a lot of information can be given by a couple's sleep together. The pose that the lovers take reveals their true feelings.

Sleep positions and their meaning

When analyzing sleeping positions, experts usually take into account the one in which the lovers wake up, and not the one in which they fall asleep. There are such poses:

• "Conquering space". People who sleep in this position love each other, but not everything is so good in a relationship. The one who sleeps on his back, in everyday life, shows selfishness and unwillingness to take care of a loved one. Lying on his stomach is rather closed and hardly opens even to a partner. Intertwined legs mean commitment to each other;

  

  In such a pair, one partner is stubborn, and the other is closed.

• "back to back". Partners who sleep this way value each other very much. The relationship is quite harmonious, but lovers need personal space, and that's okay. Such people are able to exist without a loved one, but they will feel comfort only next to him;

  

  People who sleep back to back in a dream love each other, but need personal space

• "You are far away from me". In this position, people do not touch each other, this should alert. Partners are trying to distance themselves or even see each other as competitors. On the other hand, sometimes those who sleep in this position simply respect the personal space of a loved one. You need to observe relationships in everyday life. If people are tense during sleep, then they quarreled and, it seems, are not going to make up;

  

  People who sleep in this position either respect personal boundaries or subconsciously try to distance themselves

• "at arm's length". People resting in this pose have a healthy relationship. They do not depend on each other, have fun separately and have a personal hobby, but they completely trust their loved one. A partner who stretches out his hand shows his willingness to protect a loved one. If the lovers quarreled, then this can be considered a desire to make peace;

  

  Lovers sleeping in this position have personal boundaries, but trust each other.

• "I look like in a mirror." If you and your partner sleep in this position, then the relationship can only be envied. Lovers trust a friend and are completely open. No everyday problems can extinguish their feelings. In a relationship, there is everything: an amazing sex life, and romance, and friendship;

  

  This pose demonstrates a relationship that has love, passion, and friendship.

• "stay with me". This is how those who strive for freedom sleep. Often, a partner lying behind puts his hand on his loved one’s shoulder, which betrays the need for love and attention, which he does not receive. Those who have turned their backs on their other half have high self-esteem;

  

  In a relationship, one partner needs love, and the other has high self-esteem.

• "Dominance". This pose demonstrates a good relationship between partners. People are attached to each other and appreciate a loved one. This situation usually indicates a good sex life. However, the one who lies on his back and hugs is used to dominating in all areas, and this is not always pleasant;

  

  The partner who lies on his back and hugs the other likes to dominate

• "Spoons". This is a very controversial pose. On the one hand, hugs indicate affection, comfort, and a sense of security in a couple. The one who hugs a loved one from behind is trying to show concern and protect the partner. On the other hand, the relationship is far from ideal. There is a lot of understatement and uncertainty in them;

  

  Lovers sleeping in this position are attached to each other, but their relationship is not perfect.

• "Plexus of hands, plexus of legs." In the relationship of people sleeping in this position, passion reigns. They literally can't get away from each other. Most often, people sleep in this position at the beginning of a relationship, and this love has every chance to last for a very long time. If people who have been together for quite a long time rest like this, then the relationship may be filled with jealousy;

  

  People who have a passion for each other sleep in this position.

• "Half for you, half for me." The relationship of such a couple can hardly be called harmonious. Most likely, there is not much love and passion in them. The partner who takes up most of the bed uses the relationship to assert themselves. If one of the couple raises his hands up, then he is very stubborn and requires submission.

  

  This is how people sleep when their relationship lacks love.

How poses change over the years

Over the years, relations between partners change, this is reflected in the poses in which the lovers sleep. In the first months (less often - years), lovers sleep embracing in order to be as close to each other as possible. Later this is replaced by the "spoon" pose. Spouses do not need such close contact, but they still feel comfortable and safe.

But gradually the distance between the lovers increases. After about 5 years, they stop hugging, just touch each other with their hands or feet. After 10 years, partners stop thinking about sleeping together, and choose those positions that are comfortable for them, even if they have to turn their backs or sleep on opposite sides of the bed.

Even later, some spouses even have separate sets of underwear and mattresses, so that contact in a dream disappears. But some vivid sensations or unexpected outbursts of passion can bring partners closer for a while, and they will start hugging again in a dream.

Such changes are natural and do not indicate a deterioration in relations. Over the years, the need for constant contact disappears. Physical closeness is replaced by emotional closeness, so if in everyday life the relationship is harmonious, then you should not worry about distance at night.

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Alarms when sleeping together

Some features of joint sleep may indicate a split in the relationship, the fading of love, some problems that require discussion. You need to pay attention to the following signals:

• partners do not hug in the early years of the relationship;
• the partner lies on the edge of the bed with his back, trying to fence himself off as much as possible;
• a loved one crawls down from the bed, as if trying to escape;
• the partner abruptly refuses to hug positions, although he used to love them very much.

The pose in which a couple in love sleeps can reveal many secrets of their relationship. Its analysis will help to recognize the problem and fix it in time. But don't be alarmed if the poses become less intimate over time. This is a natural phenomenon, it does not mean anything bad.