Is It Possible For Pregnant Women To Go To The Cemetery, Funeral And Commemoration

2024 Author: Bailey Albertson | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 12:53

Why pregnant women should not go to the cemetery and funerals: facts and myths

The cemetery at all times was considered a gloomy, mysterious and unsafe place. So is it permissible for pregnant women to visit it on the occasion, for example, of a funeral or commemoration? Many different opinions can be heard about this. Let's try to objectively understand this issue.

Content

• 1 Popular beliefs: why a pregnant woman should not go to the cemetery

• 2 Expert opinion

  • 2.1 What doctors say
  • 2.2 What psychologists say

• 3 Opinion of the priests

  3.1 What other faiths claim

• 4 Helpful Tips
• 5 Women's Reviews
• 6 Video: the priest tells whether pregnant women can go to the cemetery

Popular beliefs: why a pregnant woman should not go to the cemetery

At all times, many gloomy legends have been associated with the burial places of the dead. And this is not surprising, since death is the most terrible and sad event that can only happen to a person. The people have always believed that during pregnancy, visiting a cemetery is not only undesirable, but also extremely dangerous. According to these beliefs, this is what can happen if a pregnant woman goes to a funeral or decides to visit the grave of a deceased relative:

1. Attack of evil spirits. It is known that black magicians often use the cemetery to perform their witchcraft rituals. And the demonic creatures that they summon at the same time can attack the baby and do him great harm. Popular beliefs claim that a child who has not yet been born and has not been baptized in the church supposedly does not have a personal guardian angel capable of interceding on him - and therefore his soul is defenseless against otherworldly entities. As a result of such an attack, the baby's health may suffer, or he will be born possessed by demons. Evil spirits can also attack the expectant mother - and then the pregnancy will be difficult, and complications will arise during childbirth.
2. Sharing the soul of a deceased person. The souls of sinners, who did not go to heaven and find no peace, roam the cemetery and look for a body in which they could continue to live on earth. One of these souls can move into a child - and then he will have not his own, but someone else's fate. That is, all his life he will be haunted by problems and misfortunes that he did not deserve.
3. Meeting with "rubbed" (souls of unbaptized children). This belief has Ukrainian roots. It says that babies who died unbaptized roam in flocks near the graves and appear at night in the form of ghosts. And if a pregnant woman comes to the cemetery, the "rubbish" can steal and take the soul of her child into their company. And then he will be born dead or die immediately after birth. But even if the baby survives, all the same, the "rubbed" will not leave him alone - they will constantly haunt and frighten. Such a child will supposedly grow up shy, whiny and sickly.
4. Adverse effects of the deceased. If a pregnant woman during the funeral and commemoration is very worried about the loss of a loved one, his soul can move into the child. Or, as an option, the deceased is able to "steal" a large portion of happiness and health from the baby.

It should be noted that the beliefs forbidding pregnant women to go to the cemetery exist not only in countries where Christianity is the main religion. In the East, where they believe in the transmigration of souls, they also do not recommend visiting burial places for women during demolitions. According to Eastern legends, the cemetery is saturated with the negative energy of grief and suffering. It is this unfavorable energy background that can badly affect the chakras of the expectant mother and damage the aura of her baby.

Beliefs that visiting places of grief can harm a child or an expectant mother exist not only in Christian countries, but also in the East.

Expert opinion

As the saying goes, “there is no smoke without fire,” and folk legends that do not recommend visiting a cemetery during pregnancy still have a certain rational basis. Apparently, observant people in ancient times noticed that many expectant mothers who attended the funeral, subsequently were very sick or gave birth to sick children. So the cemetery atmosphere is really dangerous for pregnant women?

From time immemorial, they tried to protect pregnant women from funerals, because this is a very strong stress that could end in premature birth or other bad consequences.

What do the doctor's say

According to representatives of modern medicine, it is undesirable for women in an interesting position to attend funerals and commemorations, as well as visit graves in a cemetery, and for the following reasons:

1. A large crowd of people. First, in a crowd, a pregnant woman can be accidentally pushed or hit. Secondly, she can get infected from someone present with a dangerous infectious disease. It should be borne in mind that immunity weakens during pregnancy, and the risk of catching an infection increases significantly.

   

   A crowd of people at a funeral or memorial service can pose a threat of infection, and it is also traumatic

2. Unfavorable weather conditions. At a funeral, you have to stand for a long time near the coffin, regardless of the weather. In the summer, the expectant mother may feel bad because of the stuffiness and heat. In winter, she runs the risk of overcooling herself and the child.
3. Extreme stress. As you know, a nervous shock during pregnancy can have the most terrible consequences, up to the birth of a still child. Therefore, it is highly undesirable for a pregnant woman to sob near the grave.

But despite the above risks, doctors do not in all cases prohibit their patients who are expecting a baby from taking part in funeral and memorial events. Much depends on two factors: the well-being of the pregnant woman and her attitude to what is happening. If a woman feels great and at the same time is firmly convinced that she can avoid a nervous breakdown, then the doctor, of course, will not forbid her to go to the cemetery.

What psychologists say

From the point of view of psychology, each individual case should be considered individually. Again, you need to build on the condition of the woman and on the objective circumstances. It is undesirable to go to the cemetery during pregnancy if:

1. The woman has lost a very close person and tragically perceives his death. The sight of a coffin being lowered into the grave can provoke a severe nervous breakdown with all the ensuing consequences.
2. The expectant mother has a vulnerable and impressionable character. In this case, even if not the closest person died, the sight of other people's suffering and the cemetery atmosphere can have a very bad effect on her psychological state.

3. The woman complains of physical illness or depression. Pregnancy is often accompanied by mood swings, weakness, and depression. And if such a condition has arisen, then it is undesirable to aggravate it.

   

   If the expectant mother is not feeling well, she should refuse to visit places of grief.

As a practicing psychologist, I often had to listen to the complaints of pregnant patients about the feelings of guilt they feel for not taking a loved one off on their last journey. In such cases, I explain that expecting a child may well justify such an act. For I know of cases when women who wept at funerals subsequently had a miscarriage, or they gave birth to dead children. You can say goodbye to the deceased mentally. And the loss of a baby due to one's own negligence is a tragedy for any mother.

But, at the same time, if a woman categorically decided that she should be present at the cemetery even despite her pregnancy, she should not be forcibly held. For the stress of a sense of unfulfilled duty can also be strong and deep.

Opinion of the priests

It so happens that a pregnant woman really wants to go to a funeral or seeks to visit the grave of a loved one, but is afraid to do so because of the prejudices described above. In such situations, it will be useful to listen to the opinion of the clergy. And they unanimously affirm that no evil spirits and other evil spirits are present in the cemetery and cannot influence a pregnant woman in any way. The souls of the dead are in another world and cannot influence those who are alive in any way. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that during pregnancy one should not visit the graves of loved ones. In addition, a Christian believer should not be afraid of devils and demons, for he is reliably protected from them by God.

According to priests, a believer should not be afraid of evil forces

What other faiths claim

Different religions have different attitudes towards the presence of pregnant women in the cemetery. In Islam, for example, during pregnancy it is not forbidden to visit burial places, but it is not recommended to cry and lament, since it is believed that the tears of living people badly affect the soul of the deceased, burden it.

Transmigration Buddhists forbid pregnant women and children to attend funerals. This is partly due to the desire to protect expectant mothers from stress. Another purpose of this prohibition is that they, with their tears and groans, do not confuse the deceased and do not interfere with the reading of special prayers that can help the liberated soul to merge with the Absolute and get out of the cycle of repeated births.

In short, none of the major known religions recognizes that evil spirits and ghosts can be found in the cemetery. But if a woman on demolition does not know for sure whether her confession allows her to appear at the cemetery in this position, she should consult with her spiritual mentor (priest, pastor).

Useful Tips

If a pregnant woman nevertheless decided to take part in a funeral and commemoration, or simply wants to visit the grave of a loved one, she must take the necessary precautions:

• avoid crowded places;
• all the time to be close to a loved one who can help if needed;
• closely monitor your condition in order to take action if it worsens;
• as far as possible, control yourself and not give in to stress, so as not to harm the child;
• do not overwork and protect yourself from the influence of adverse weather factors (cold and heat).

Based on the observation of my pregnant patients, I can conclude that women endure the funeral procedure itself worst of all. For many, this is very intense stress that can have bad consequences. But the commemoration and a visit to the grave of a loved one are much safer for the expectant mother, so you can not refuse these events.

Visiting a cemetery while pregnant requires caution

Reviews of women

Courts on reviews on the Internet, many women went to the cemetery during pregnancy, and nothing bad happened to them:

Video: the priest tells whether pregnant women can go to the cemetery

To visit or not to visit a cemetery during pregnancy is a personal matter for every woman. The main thing is that when making a decision, the arguments of reason are taken into account and your own well-being is taken into account. For in any life situations, the expectant mother must first of all think and take care of the health of her baby.